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For young people: how to make a gender change

Hello! I am glad you are here.

This part is for young people who want to make a gender change. If you are not sure, please see the part for people who are questioning their gender.

If you are sure you want to change how you look and act, here is how to do it.

If you are in crisis and need help now, go here.

The basics

A gender change takes time. You have to make a plan. For young people, a gender change often has these steps:

  1. Finding information
  2. Coming out to your family at the right time
  3. Starting therapy
  4. Planning your social, legal, or medical steps
  5. Coming out to friends
  6. Coming out at school
  7. Being yourself all the time
  8. Doing any other social, legal, or medical steps.

Some people do the steps in a different order. No two people are quite the same!

Coming out to your family should be your main goal. If that goes well, everything else will be much easier. If you think your family will be mad or do something bad to you, you must plan things well.

Social changes

There are many ways to make a social gender change.

Fun things

  • Change your hairstyle
  • Change your clothes
  • Change your face and body
  • Change your handwriting
  • Change your name

Harder things

Legal changes

Even if you are not an adult, you may be able to make a legal name or gender change. You will almost always need help from your parent or guardian.

Things you can do on your own:

Things you can do with a parent or guardian:

Medical changes

Some young people make medical changes after several steps. You will probably need to go to therapy and be allowed by your doctors and your family.


The resources for young people on this site are below:

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The Gender Unicorn by TSER

The Gender Unicorn by

Note: This page is for young people ages 13 and above.