Your fashion choices should reflect who you are. How you express yourself through clothes and accessories can affect how others respond to you. As trans+ and gender+ people, our appearance is often judged much more critically than the appearance of people who aren’t sex and gender minorities, so being aware of the pros and cons can make your life a little easier, if that’s important to you.
Unless your school has a strict dress code or mandatory uniform, you can try out all kinds of things as a student. Have fun with trying new things!
Most schools do have some sort of dress code, so make sure anything you try meets the dress code.
Be aware that some people may criticize or make fun of your clothing choices. The best thing to do is ignore them, but if it bothers you or is affecting your safety, you may want to discuss your concerns with friends or trusted adults.
If you are not out as trans at work and need to keep your job, it’s a good idea to err on the side of caution with clothes and accessories. For trans women, earrings, long painted nails, makeup, and feminine clothing shouldn’t be done until you’re ready to be out. It will not make people more accepting of you to give them hints like this. Wait until you’re ready to be out for family, friends, or coworkers. People will notice even if they don’t say anything, and you may get outed sooner than you’re ready. It seems as if people who do those things early on want to test the waters, but this is risky unless you’re ready to face the consequences. Those consequences include confrontations at home and issues at work.
Once you’re out at work, it’s still a good idea to err on the side of caution with clothes and accessories. If you have a uniform at work, make sure any gender-specific variations you want to add are OK with your boss. If your workplace has a dress code, be sure to dress appropriately, especially if you have face-to-face interaction with customers or clients. Dress like coworkers who are close to your age and position. For instance, if you’re a 35 year old bank manager, your wardrobe should reflect that. If you want to wear things that reflect your style but they’re not appropriate at your current job, get a job where you can.