Regret is rare among people who make a gender transition. In 27 studies totaling 7,928 surgery patients, the regret rate was about 1%: “Pooling data from numerous studies demonstrates a regret rate ranging from .3 percent to 3.8 percent. Regrets are most likely to result from a lack of social support after transition or poor surgical outcomes using older techniques.”
Sometimes a person who makes a change in gender identity or gender expression will make more changes later. That is a key goal of our political movement. You should be able to change your gender identity and expression as often as you want.
Many people see gender changes on a spectrum. Some people only see them as a binary. You can always transition in any direction, and it is not all or nothing. Every person should feel free to be themselves in their own way. That can change over time. There is no shame in changing your identity or expression more than once. It is not a “failure” to change direction. It is not bad to change your mind. Many of us support you no matter what you choose. We want you to live a life full of purpose and joy. We will fight for your right to be your true self.
Most people who make more gender changes have no regrets about their earlier transition. The choices you make and the actions you take always carry some risk. Some people will feel they made a mistake. It is important not to focus on your mistakes. We all make them, even on big things. When you feel you made a mistake, you have to let it go, forgive yourself and others, and move forward. When you dwell on your mistakes and regret, you are looking backwards to the past.
The ex-transgender movement
Most people who decide to make more gender changes still support transgender people. Some just want to share their stories. They want others to avoid their unhappiness. Even most people who regret making a gender change feel it should be an option for others.
In rare cases, a person who has regret about a gender transition also decides to get money or attention by joining the “ex-trans” movement. Some work to limit or even end access to trans health services for others. Some even work to take away trans people’s other rights. They usually blame others for their transition instead of taking personal responsibility for their own choices.
The people they blame can include:
- Supportive family
- Supportive friends
- Supportive educators
- Supportive transitioners
- Supportive organizations
- Supportive strangers
- Supportive media (especially social media)
- Supportive therapists
- Supportive healthcare providers
In other words, they often blame the people who tried to help them.
Making more changes
Gender transition is mostly social. All social changes can be changed more than once. All legal changes like name or gender marker can be changed more than once. Many medical changes can be changed more than once. It is OK to try hormones or hormone blockers for a little while and stop. Because surgery is a significant step, you need to be very sure before you have surgery. Experts who reviewed 27 studies with a total of 7,928 patients who had surgery found a pooled prevalence of regret of just 1%.
Researchers at Cornell University looked at peer-reviewed studies published between 1991 and 2017:
We identified 55 studies that consist of primary research on this topic, of which 51 (93%) found that gender transition improves the overall well-being of transgender people, while 4 (7%) report mixed or null findings. We found no studies concluding that gender transition causes overall harm.
Political strategy
The ex-trans movement focuses on these controversial concepts:
- Typically used for children.
- Typically used for adults.
Notable ex-trans activists
Ex-trans people have been a cisgender media fixation for nearly a century. Some notable “ex-trans” people include:
- Walt Heyer
- Jerry Leach
- Carrie Callahan
- Hacsi Horvath
- Rene Jax
- Josef Kirchner
- James Shupe
Beginning in 2021, the ex-trans movement began to get more politically organized.
General accounts
- @DetransAware
- @post_trans
- @FtMdetransed
- @detranshealing
- @DeTransAust
Individual accounts
- helena/@lacroicsz
- KevinWhitt@KevinWhitt45
- Abel Garcia
- Chloe Cole/@puddingpandan
- Shape Shifter/@ShifterofShapes (vaginoplasty regret)
- Brian W/@BriWagon)
- Ritchie/@TullipR
- Grace/@HormoneHangover
- athena/@mothergender
- Michelle/@somenuancepls
- Ollie/@Ollie_Bun
- Chase/@InsultingAdvice
- zuza/@h8erbieber
- Mary/@fandaflames
- Carol/@SourPatches2077
- Amelie/@amelieprobably
- DetransGC/@detransgc
- Gerda/@czarnages
Media bias
People who express regret are vastly overrepresented in the media. They are often presented the way “ex-gays” used to be presented and are primarily uplifted by conservative and gender critical media figures.
References
What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?
We identified 55 studies that consist of primary research on this topic, of which 51 (93%) found that gender transition improves the overall well-being of transgender people, while 4 (7%) report mixed or null findings. We found no studies concluding that gender transition causes overall harm.
Resources
Keffals (April 27, 2022). CRINGING at Incredible DETRANSITIONER grift https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0QqS8eaE57U
Vaush (October 13, 2022) The Detransitioner Grift https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=om_a-iSRMjY
Archival resources
sexchangeregret.com
helpmereversemysexchange.org
trans-detransition.com
tradingmysorrows.com
sexchangeinfo.com