Transitioning early in life

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It has always been my goal to make this one of the most comprehensive sections of my site. I think women in their teens and twenties have unique issues and often limited options for dealing with them. Had I known the options I had in my teens, I could have saved myself a lot of money and heartache, and I would have transitioned at least ten years earlier!

This information is written for young women who desire to be completely assimilated into mainstream society and accepted as female. If you are not sure about your feelings, you need to iron that out before undertaking transition. I recommend finding a therapist or local youth group to help figure out how you feel. However, if you absolutely know in your heart what you need to do and have no doubts, just fears, read on.

Older women in our community have one major make-or-break point in transition: going full-time. Younger women have two: coming out to parents, and full-time. Because coming out to your parents is extremely important if you're under 18 or still financially dependent on your parents (i.e. in college or living at home), you must plan for this very carefully. I'll discuss that at length in this section.

There's help and hope out there!

All of the women who maintain important informational websites are here to help you however we can. Jenny, Evelyn, Emily, Katie, Lynn, Jennifer, and many others do referrals and networking with each other to help young women, because we all know how important it is to get going as soon as possible.

We also want you to know you are not alone. We will do whatever possible to make your transition easier. Please do not hesitate to contact me if there's anything I can do to help you find information or services. I make a special effort to do whatever I can to help others start sooner than I did.

Too many young women feel isolated and lonely in transition. Don't let this happen to you-- it becomes a vicious cycle from which it's heard to escape. Don't turn inward-- reach out to those who can help and make you feel better about yourself. Our community is full of very wonderful women who let intolerant jerks convince them they were worthless.

I don't even know you, but I can tell you that you have a lot to offer the world! Try to stay proud and think long-term. You have a great life awaiting you-- join those of us who made it through the hard time and are loving every minute of it!

Contributions welcome!

If you or someone you know transitioned in their teens or twenties, you have valuable information that can help other women. I am happy to give your information a permanent and absolutely anonymous home on my site. If you're interested in helping, please read my page on how to contribute.


Online security and the option of stealth << (important!)

Coming out to parents: introduction

Ten things you can do before your parents know

Coming out tips

Success story: my grandfather's rejection and eventual acceptance

Success story: a coming out letter is received well

Obtaining a post office box as a minor

Obtaining hormones and antiandrogens as a minor


Mental health issues


Safety tips while out and about

Financing transition

A note on sex work

A note on silicone injections

A note on stealth

Deep stealth dangers: D--- outed by nosy sheriff's deputy

Selected resources for younger women

A little help from my friends: advice from others

LINK: The future of teen transition by Lynn Conway
Professor Conway has posted a translation of an inspirational article on trans children in The Netherlands, where gender-variance is allowed to be expressed at an early age. People like Ray Blanchard and his buddy Ken Zucker at the Clarke Institute may see these children as "bad outcomes," but I see it as a promising sign of how children like us will be accommodated in the future.